Feeling Alone in Recovery

Recovery is a holy road that can often feel lonely, even when you know Jesus is walking beside you and that He will ultimately heal you. There are even times when the silence is so deafening, it makes you want to scream. The isolation feels unbearable, and you wonder if anyone truly understands. If you are feeling alone in your journey, know this: If you are reading this right now, there’s a reason why. I want to tell you that I’ve been where you are, back in 2008, and I’m here to tell you that you are not alone, and your feelings are not a sign of failure but an opportunity for deeper trust and growth in Christ. Keep fighting.

The Truth About Loneliness

Loneliness is a real struggle, and common, during recovery… especially in the beginning. You may have lost friendships that were tied to addiction, distanced yourself from unhealthy relationships, or feel like others, especially those who have never battled addiction, don’t truly understand what you’re going through. The enemy wants to use this isolation to discourage you, but God wants to use the way you’re feeling to draw you closer to Him.

God’s Presence in the Silence

“Be still, and know that I Am God.” (Psalm 46:10)

In those moments of loneliness, remember the words of Jesus: “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age” (Matthew 28:20). Just because you don’t feel God doesn’t mean He isn’t there. Elijah, one of the greatest prophets, also struggled with feeling alone. In 1 Kings 19, he fled in fear and told God, “I have had enough, Lord. Take my life” (v. 4). But God met him, not in the mighty wind, earthquake, or fire, but in a gentle whisper. Sometimes, God is closest in the quiet moments when we feel most alone.

Embracing the Family of Christ

Even though your past relationships may have changed, God never intended for you to walk this journey alone. “God sets the lonely in families” (Psalm 68:6). The body of Christ is designed to support one another. If you are struggling with loneliness, seek out a Christian community—whether it be a church, a fellowship, a born-again Christian recovery coach, a non-12-step Christian recovery group, or trusted believers who can encourage you. Recovery is not just about leaving behind addiction and your past; it’s about stepping into the new life Christ has gifted to you, and part of that life includes healthy, godly relationships.

The Power of Prayer and the Word

Prayer is a lifeline when you feel alone. Jesus often withdrew to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16), and if the Son of God needed those moments with our Abba Father, how much more do we? Pour out your heart to God in honesty—He already knows your pain. Meditate on Scriptures that remind you of His faithfulness:

• “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)
• “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)
• “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.” (Isaiah 41:10)

The Benefits of a Believing Recovery Coach

Having a believing recovery coach can make a significant difference in your journey. A Christian recovery coach not only understands the struggles of addiction but also integrates biblical principles and faith-based encouragement into their guidance. Here’s how a believing coach can help:

• Spiritual Encouragement: They remind you of God’s promises and help you stay rooted in His Word.
• Accountability: A coach provides structure, helping you stay committed to your recovery goals while keeping Jesus Christ at the center.
• Biblical Wisdom: They offer godly counsel, drawing from Scripture to help you navigate challenges.
• Emotional and Practical Support: A Christian coach provides a safe space to share your struggles and practical steps to move forward in faith.
• Prayer and Intercession: They pray with and for you, reinforcing that you are not alone in your battle.

A believing recovery coach can serve as a mentor, guiding you through the tough seasons while helping you strengthen your relationship with Christ. It’s best if your recovery coach has been through addiction and recovery themselves for the best relationship. If you are struggling with loneliness, consider seeking out a Christian coach who can walk alongside you in faith.

Serving Others in Your Loneliness

One of the most powerful ways to combat loneliness is to serve others. I’ve done other posts on this which you can search if you’d like. When you shift your focus from what you’re lacking to how you can help, you begin to see God working through you. Volunteer in a local soup kitchen, a church outreach, mentor someone else in recovery, or simply be a listening ear to someone who needs it. Jesus Himself said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35), and in giving, you will find your own heart being filled.

Holding on to Hope

Loneliness in recovery is real, but it is not permanent. God is using this season to strengthen your faith, reshape your identity in Christ, and prepare you for deeper relationships rooted in Him. It is your wilderness experience. Keep pressing on, keep seeking Him, and remember: Even in the darkest moments, He is there, leading you toward healing, wholeness, and a future filled with His love.

You are never truly alone. Jesus is with you, and in Him, you will find all the strength you need to continue this journey.

Have a blessed rest of your day, knowing that even if you feel alone, you are never alone. I invite you to share your heart in the comments here. Hope to see you in my next post. Bye for now!