Rebuilding Trust After Addiction Has Stripped You Of Being Trustworthy

Trust is the MOST important element in healthy relationships; however, as you know, addiction most often shatters trust. Everyone you love are now afraid to trust you at all. For all of you walking the healing road of recovery, rebuilding trust with loved ones can feel absolutely overwhelming. Yet, with God’s help, it becomes possible. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.” Trust in God first, and He will lead you in earning back the trust of those you love. Remember that trust is earned; when it’s lost, it has to be earned back.

Acknowledging the hurt caused by addiction is the first step. True humility requires us to own our mistakes without making excuses. As James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” Healing begins when we admit our wrongs, never repeat those wrongs and seriously seek forgiveness from Jesus and from loved ones.

Words alone aren’t enough to rebuild trust. They are empty and lack substance unless proven. Consistent actions, without going back to your past, over time, prove genuine change. Just as Jesus called Zacchaeus to demonstrate repentance by making amends (Luke 19:8-9), you, too, must show through your life that you are committed to being trustworthy. Take baby steps, by being reliable, showing up on time, and fulfilling promises. Baby steps can lead to big changes in your relationships.

“But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”
Jesus, in Matthew 5:37

You must be patient during this time of regaining trust. Those you hurt may need time to heal. Proverbs 16:32 reminds us, “Better a patient person than a warrior.” Don’t rush the process or demand immediate forgiveness. Trust must be EARNED with honesty and consistency over time.

Your relationship with God is #1 always, but even above #1 during this time of re-earning trust. When you prioritize your relationship with Jesus Christ and put Him first, it is revealed in how you treat others. Spend time in prayer, studying the Word, and sincerely seeking accountability from your recovery coach and with fellow believers. As you draw closer to Jesus, His love will shine through you, making it easier for others to see your transformation.

There may be a few bumps in the road that may lead to frustration, but God’s grace is sufficient. The Bible says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness”. (2 Corinthians 12:9). Lean on His strength, not your own.

One of the most powerful testimonies you can offer is a life marked by integrity and redemption. God uses transformed lives to bring glory to His name. By staying faithful and transparent, your story will not only be your testimony, but can become a beacon of hope to others still struggling.

Finally, remember that earning back trust is not just about repairing human relationships—it’s about living in obedience to Jesus Christ. As you continue walking out your recovery, let your life be a reflection of the redeeming power of Christ. In His hands, broken trust can be restored, relationships can be renewed, and you can bring others to Jesus Christ which is the goal.

Have a blessed rest of your day! Begin walking out your walk on the straight and narrow road that Jesus has given us to walk on. When you follow what He says, everything is easier, simpler, and just works. See you next post! Bye for now!